Published January 18, 2020
Do you ever find the same pattern in your day dream? Driving the car, at the grocery store, during the boring parts of staff meeting…
Since I was about 14, I’ve had the same day dream repeat. Most of the time, it hits when I listen to music. Let me set the stage: I’m always singing in a band in front of a crowd that includes friends, coworkers, and family (plus the strangers that have come just for the performance). Not a huge stadium or anything. More like at a favorite bar or brewery. The songs that I belt out change depending on my mood. Sometimes it’s a deep brooding jam, other times something really fast paced and happy, occasionally a love song. But here were the main stays:
- I always have a band backing me up or singing with me. In this daydream the vibe is that I knew this band well and feel totally supported by them.
- Whatever I was singing moved the crowds. Deeply. Like I can make them feel what I was feeling with the power of my voice and words
- People see me differently afterwards, in a good way. Understanding me a little more deeply.
Ok, so here’s the thing: I cannot sing. At all. I’ve also always had a strong attraction to understanding the lives of singers. So what’s the deal?
Sometimes, our big, beautiful vision for our lives is scary. Sometimes they are even so scary that we don’t pay attention to them. Our limiting beliefs, the messages we receive growing up, the media we consume, they all can cause us to label our dreams as impossible, impractical, or irresponsible. So we shove them away into this fantasy section of our brain where we also catalog our dreams of marrying our celebrity crushes and winning the lottery.
Our brain is a funny thing. If we aren’t listening to our wants and needs straight up, it’ll try spinning it to you another way to see if you get the message. Our dreams at night are theorized to be the brain processing unfinished business during the day. Our daydreams probably aren’t far from that either.
So I looked back at my daydream and, being the psychologist that I am, decided to look at the themes.
- Using my voice in front of a crowd
- Having the support of people I trust behind me while I share my message
- Tapping into people’s emotions with my message
- Feeling more understood by others around me in the process
Coming up in February is the second anniversary of me starting my podcast that explores mental health, self-care, and our emotional worlds. I’ve formed some really great supportive relationships through the show, and also have truly seen how many supportive people have my back as I chase this dream. I’ve used it to explore my own process of healing, and felt ready to share my story in a way I never had before. And you know, that singing daydream seems to pop up a little less now. The more I pursue this show, it tends to show up less and less. You know, until the right song comes on…
Your daydreams have a lot to tell you. Pay attention and keep an open mind, your brain might be trying to tell you.
Don’t quit your daydream,
Host of Watered Grass