Published January 11, 2020

Trust me, I used to suffer from the Sunday Scaries, like many of us.  I don’t think that it’s all because of the work ahead.  I think it was the idea of leaving the weekend (and all that it signified) behind.  Weekends were where I could do my self-care and have fun- which meant waiting another 5 days for ‘fun’ to come back around.  I categorized weekdays as productivity days, and couldn’t imagine feeling productive while also having fun.

This post could go in a lot of different directions.  It could be a “do what you love” email where I throw out phrases like “If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day of your life!”  But that’s not what this email is about.  There are plenty of other posts for that, because here’s the thing: even the dream job will have busy days, stressful weeks, and distractions we might rather do. I’d rather talk about how we find joy in our lives when the stress inevitably happens.

Overall, I feel like I’m good at the therapeutic and healthy habits, like my meditation routine and exercise.  I remember to put that into my schedule and understand boundaries around that.  What I’ve been slacking on is finding time for hobbies, or those things I enjoy doing just because they’re enjoyable.  As someone with multiple jobs, my time can get really full, and I used to live with a fear that any moment not spent on productivity was a minute of falling behind.  On the flip side, I caught myself having more self-imposed breaks that didn’t fill me up, like scrolling on social media or watching tv shows I wasn’t even interested in.

But here’s what happened.  I was starting to run dry.  I spent December exhausted and with a variety of illnesses, and I started to find myself striving for creative ideas again.  After getting my body in working order, I realized that pushing myself to collapse was not the ideal way for a self-imposed vacation.  I had the relaxation built in, but what about the joy?

I decided to reclaim my weekdays, and schedule in things that I love just because they’re enjoyable.  I picked up a sketchpad for the first time in a decade, read some light fiction, and even scheduled a bellydancing class.  I’ve been feeling lighter, happier, and suddenly the ideas started flowing again.  So there’s something to be said about having fun on a weekday.

Some ideas for how to take back the other five days:

  • Schedule a regular happy hour or take advantage of a daily special (Taco Tuesday, anyone?)
  • Dive into that hobby you’ve been meaning to try once per week.  Find a YouTube series, class, or tutorial to learn a craft, language, or activity you’ve wanted to try
  • Try shorter versions of your weekend fun.  If you enjoy a long hike on a Saturday, what about a short walk after work?

Life is short, don’t skimp on the fun!

 

Diana Fuller

Host of Watered Grass